Emphasizing Empathy

•December 20, 2012 • Leave a Comment

“Working with a child’s temperament, taking advantage of an emerging sense of self and increasing cognitive understanding of the world and helped by the reward centers of the brain, parents can try to foster that warm glow and the worldview that goes with it. Empathy, sympathy, compassion, kindness and charity begin at home, and very early.”

When I was doing my masters in Special Education almost ten years ago, we were told that the lack of empathy among children and in schools was reaching epidemic proportions. This is leading to very serious issues in bullying, isolation and alienation of students in schools and later on in life. Here are some articles that highlight ways to understand empathy and to increase it in your children. How are ways you encourage empathy in your children and students?

Where the wild things were.

•December 19, 2012 • Leave a Comment

 

He seemed to understand the innate workings of a child and their awesome spirit. Beautiful. Full interview can be found here and image source can be found here.

Lost Connections

•December 19, 2012 • Leave a Comment

“In her famous essay the Ecology of Imagination in Childhood, Edith Cobb proposed that contact with nature stimulates creativity. Reviewing the biographies of 300 “geniuses”, she exposed a common theme: intense experiences of the natural world in the middle age of childhood (between five and 12). Animals and plants, she contended, are among “the figures of speech in the rhetoric of play … which the genius in particular of later life seems to recall”.

Studies in several nations show that children’s games are more creative in green places than in concrete playgrounds. Natural spaces encourage fantasy and roleplay, reasoning and observation. The social standing of children there depends less on physical dominance, more on inventiveness and language skills. Perhaps forcing children to study so much, rather than running wild in the woods and fields, is counter-productive.

And here we meet the other great loss. Most of those I know who fight for nature are people who spent their childhoods immersed in it. Without a feel for the texture and function of the natural world, without an intensity of engagement almost impossible in the absence of early experience, people will not devote their lives to its protection. The fact that at least half the published articles on ash dieback have been illustrated with photos of beeches, sycamores or oaks seems to me to be highly suggestive.”

Full article found here.

SOS – Save Our Souls

•December 19, 2012 • Leave a Comment

#5) Public education that teaches revisionist history and toxic ideas about society
American children are being insidiously poisoned by public schools and all the atrociously damaging ideas those schools teach.

Many schools are now teaching what is essentially socialism or even communism. They attack and ridicule students who believe in the founding principles of America: patriotism, the Bill of Rights, individual liberty and the U.S. Constitution.

Students are also now being microchipped and taught that they are slaves of the state.

Just recently, in fact, several students were suspended from Kearney High School for painting the American flag on their chests for a lip-sync music video project sponsored by the school.

This is all a type of mental poisoning of our children, done under the banner of “education.”

As found in

The ten worst ways your children are being poisoned right now:

vaccines, food, video games and more

Encouraging Independent Play

•December 18, 2012 • Leave a Comment

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Perspective

•December 18, 2012 • Leave a Comment

In a previous post, I mentioned how awesome it would be if teachers received the same recognition that doctors and lawyers do. Donald D Quinn sums it up perfectly:

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Image source can be found here.

Culture of Learners

•December 18, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Click on this link if the above video doesn’t play: http://vimeo.com/53056240

I’ve recently started following For the Love of Learning and was loved this post. Stemming from this article on the costs of overemphasizing achievement, Joe of For the Love of Learning provides a great summary.

Here it is:

  • There is a world of difference between getting kids to focus on their performance or achievement (how well they are doing) and getting them to focus on their learning (what they are doing).
  • Do we want children to get up in the morning and get excited about school because they want to learn something new or do we want them to get excited about getting an A and conquering their peers?
  • The questions teachers and parents ask children tells them what we consider to be most important. “What did you learn” and “did you ask any good questions today” are distinctly different than “what grade did you get on your project” or “is your homework done”.
  • Do we want young children to focus on the cool stories and exciting characters or do we want them to focus on how good they are at reading?
  • Do we want to make a fetish out of meta-cognition where we have students obsessing over thinking about how well they are doing?
  • At what point are we overemphasizing performance and achievement?
  • An intense focus on achievement and performance comes at the expense of learning.
  • The purpose of education is more education.
  • Yes we want children to learn, but then that means we must care very deeply about whether children want to learn which means we must provide them with a learning environment that is worth learning.
  • Do we want kids to ask “am I better than I used to be” and “is this good enough” or do we want them to ask “how do things work that way” and “I wonder why the character acted that way”?
  • If you want to sabotage learning, we would not only get kids focused on how well they are doing, we would get kids to focus on how well they are doing compared to others.
  • Everyone loses in the raise to win.
  • The behaviour that we can measure and collect data on is not what matters most, and the more we focus on these behaviours that are easy to measure, the greater the chances we will miss what matters most in respect of learning.
  • How children rationalize their success matters more than their success.
  • Overemphasizing achievement and performance leads to neurotic perfectionism and an acute fear of failure.

Here are 6 consequences of an overemphasis on achievement and performance:

  1. Kids become less intrinsically interested in learning and learning becomes a chore.
  2. Children come to attribute their success and failure to ability rather than effort.
  3. Children will avoid challenging tasks to ensure higher achievement.
  4. Children crumble at the first sign of failure or setbacks.
  5. Children come to see their peers as obstacles to their own success.
  6. The more children are focused on their achievement the shallower their thinking.

Find the original post here.

 

Give them the World

•December 17, 2012 • 1 Comment

“Education is what we do to our children when we want the world from them.

Learning is what our children do when we give them the world.”

Educoup.com

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Education? There’s no such thing.

•December 17, 2012 • 4 Comments

“Education? There’s no such thing.

It’s a pleasant synonym for the indoctrination of children towards our own ends. Education is what happens when we raise kids because we want things from them. Learning is what happens when we raise kids because we want to give them something – the world.

How do we do that? What does it look like? What is our job if we want to give children the world, rather than use them for it? It’s very simple.

To give children the world, you love them, and protect them, no matter what, and you let them find their own way. Love them. Protect them. Listen to them. Empower them.”

From an excellent post found at Educoup.com

Homeschooling is a great option, but for many it isn’t even on the table. I really don’t feel public education as it is right now is sufficient for the world we live in and the world our children are growing up in. We need to rework the system from the ground up and start anew.

The last couple of days, I keep coming across the Sudbury Valley School, a democratic alternative school. While a tuition-based private school, why can’t the principles of this school be applied to some of the charter schools? A mini-reform of sorts.

“At Sudbury Valley School, students from preschool through high school age explore the world freely, at their own pace and in their own unique ways. They learn to think for themselves, and learn to use Information Age tools to unearth the knowledge they need from multiple sources. They develop the ability to make clear logical arguments, and deal with complex ethical issues. Through self-initiated activities, they pick up the basics; as they direct their lives, they take responsibility for outcomes, set priorities, allocate resources, and work with others in a vibrant community.”

In a recent article about democratic schools,

“In Massachusetts farm country, not far from Boston, a group of about 200 students of all ages are part of a radical experiment. These students don’t take any classes they don’t specifically ask to have taught. They can spend their time doing whatever they want, as long as it’s not destructive or criminal — reading, playing video games, cooking, making art. There are 11 adults, called “staff members”; no one technically holds the title of “teacher.” The kids establish rules and mete out punishments by a democratic process whereby each member of the community has one vote — which means the adults are “outnumbered” by the kids almost 20 to one. Unlike at most private schools, students are admitted without regard to their academic records.”

Part of the premise of democratic schools is to trust the children no matter what their age to make decisions about their environment and learning and the rules that govern all of that. Can you trust your children to learn as they see fit?

“Learning … has always existed and been pivotal to the survival and progress of the human race. Learning is not optional or institutional, and it will take place in any environment, from the bleakest to the brightest, no matter what. For example, in many of our schools now, in spite of the oppressive atmosphere, students manage to learn that their opinions and interests are not valued, that they are subordinate to their teachers, that they must sit down, shut up and do as their told, or suffer ridicule and punishment. These are just a few of the lessons that are compulsory in our backward curriculums. In a moment you will have the option of watching a video demonstrating a school that fosters learning, with no ‘education’ necessary to the process.”

Check out the full post here.

Another aspect of democratic schools is their lack of structure which may prove to be a challenge for many parents, including myself.

“Many agree that the generation of Americans now in their teens and 20s had some of the most over-supervised and over-structured childhoods in U.S. history. It will be interesting to see whether these trends will continue, or whether these next-generation parents react to their own disciplined upbringings by becoming more hands-off. If they grow to resent the way they were raised, democratic schools may come to look like a pretty appealing option for their own children.”

Here is the full article that was published in the Atlantic. Would you send your children to democratic schools?

Simply Beautiful

•December 17, 2012 • Leave a Comment

A beautiful post by Jamie at Simple Homeschool where she tells us about her hometown, Newton, as she knows it.

Thank you, Jamie, and our prayers are with you and your community.

 
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